Our Crazy Life

Soooo...as of this moment, surgery is scheduled for October 23rd at 8:30 a.m.  We met with neurosurgery last week, and Toby does need the detethering done before they put the rods in.  We looked at the MRI results, and he has a huge syrinx (fluid filled cyst) in his spinal cord, which could be as a result of too much fluid in the ventricles of his brain (i.e. still needs a working shunt) or the need to be detethered. After much discussion, we have decided to also do a shunt revision with the de-tethering.  We will never know whether the issues Toby has had are related to the ETV not draining enough cerebrospinal fluid from his ventricles, so this is our opportunity.  Essentially he will have two surgeries in one - #13 and #14 - but same anesthesia time.  

I'm nervous to say the least.  I realized later that twice after Toby's had surgery on his spinal system his sodium has dropped and we've had issues.  I really don't want to experience another 4+ hour convulsive seizure - I called the NS nurse on Friday and expressed my concerns.  She assured me that they will monitor his fluids really closely, and I'll probably push for getting his sodium checked after he's released from the hospital just to be sure.  I feel like if something happened, it will be on my shoulders, because I was the one that asked the doctor if we could do the shunt too.  He just hasn't been the same kid - after thinking through it, he ultimately made the decision to go ahead, but it still makes me nervous. 

After all of that, I have been considering what will happen to this scheduled surgery next week if the orthopedic surgeon decides not to do his back surgery by the end of this year.  If you remember he's been on vacation, and has no clue what has transpired these past few weeks.  It doesn't make sense to de-tether the spinal cord if we delay the rod surgery because scar tissue will form and he'll just need the detethering done again. 

SO, after all this planning, etc. everything could change.  I'm hoping/praying that it doesn't.  I have grieved through these surgeries, and now am ready to have them done, complete, and for Toby to be able to heal and move on - so pray that everything continues to fall into place.  We are moving forward as if surgery is October 23rd.  We'll see!

So, we have a lot going on right now.  Toby had an appt. with the his regular surgeon today - to get a new feeding tube.  It's called a Mini-one Balloon Button.  It's smaller, flatter, and skinnier than his other Mic-Key button, and hopefully will be better for him.  After the appointment we went to the lab to get blood drawn for all the pre-op stuff.  It was tough - they couldn't get the vein on the first try, and Toby was a crying hot mess!  He had an autonomic response - ears turned red, face, sweating profusely.  Thankfully, they got it on the second try, but afterwards he was exhausted and fell asleep in the van on the way home.  I think this is because his blood pressure drops when his autonomic system is under stress, and then he just fell asleep.  He is better tonight.

This week Toby also has a pulmonary appt., a complex care appt., and we are trying to stay healthy through all of this.  I also have to take Caris for an orthopedic appointment.  I think she might have a leg length discrepancy, and so we are just getting it checked to make sure her hips/legs are okay.  

Sunday, is the Nationwide Children's Hospital Marathon/Half-Marathon.  We are making all the plans for Toby to cheer the runners on, and my sister Shauna and myself are running the half-marathon (it will be her first and my second).  I'm excited for most of my family to come in for a visit, but we have a big week, a bigger weekend, and an even bigger week next week.  Did I mention that Toby's IEP meeting is Monday?

Whew - we surely covet your prayers through all of this - and for mommy to stay healthy and sane! :)

Some Answers

It's taken me a few days to process everything from Toby's MRI on Thursday.  Toby also had a GI appointment this week, so let me start there, and hopefully I can sort through everything. 

(P.S. If you follow Toby's CB site - this is the same post, so I'll save you some time by posting that here instead of you having to read the whole thing!)

GI appointment - This was a follow-up to discuss how the motility medication was working.  Toby is taking flagyl 7 days a month to stimulate his motility and improve his belly distension. It is helping.  His belly still gets distended, but it's not nearly as bad as it was.  We have also been able to cut down to a bare minimum dose on the cyproheptadine (or periactin) for his appetite stimulant.  We played with it quite a bit a few months ago and have it down to where it it still helping him to eat what he needs in calories, but not have the side effects that we were seeing from it. We also discussed the MACE vs. cecostomy with the GI doctor, and also asked about a motility study.  A few weeks ago in Myelo clinic, his developmental pediatrician had mentioned that before they do the bowel surgery they typically like to do a motility study to see if the kids will be continent, and if the surgery will be effective. I like that idea just because we've had so many issues with motility. GI doctor said he wouldn't recommend an in-depth study, the fact that the enemeez enemas work as well as they do, and he's fairly continent in between is evidence that the cecostomy/MACE would be good for him.  When we get closer to doing that surgery (probably next spring/summer) we can do a sitz marker study. Basically, Toby would eat some markers that I believe have barium in them, then they take x-rays and see how fast his digestion progresses.  I really like the idea of this study - had heard about it at the National SB conference this year, and just makes sense to me.  Nothing earth shattering, but a good follow-up.

So, on to the MRI...

We were instructed to arrive at 8:00 a.m., no food after midnight, and clear liquids up until 7:30 a.m.  The MRI was scheduled for 11:15 a.m.  Afterwards, Toby would be discharged (he has to be technically admitted to pulmonary floor so they have a ventilator for him when he wakes up after the anesthesia in the PACU) and we would head over to meet with the neurosurgeon to discuss results and possibly surgery.

I have learned that nothing at the hospital EVER goes as planned. The MRI didn't happen until 2:15 p.m., and then the neurosurgeon ended up having to leave early so he stopped by the waiting room to discuss what they had completed so far (his brain), and told Bruce he would call me on Friday.  BECAUSE, I wasn't in the waiting room when he called.  I have met a wonderful new friend who's son has Spina Bifida, 22q syndrome, a congenital heart defect, and might be getting a trach next week. (Please pray for them).  Little Aiden has been through a lot, and he was in the PICU on Thursday, so I snuck up there to visit and talk to his precious mommy.   But, I missed the doctor, which was so frustrating because I wanted to walk away on Thursday with answers, a surgery date, and everything wrapped up in a nice neat package WITH a bow!  That didn't happen, and I should expect that by now, 

I'm so glad I visited Aiden and Kayla, realized that even if I had been in the waiting room it wouldn't have changed anything.  They hadn't even scanned his spine yet, so the NS wouldn't have had many answers anyway!

Deep Breath!
Are you still with me?

So, the doctor called on Friday, but I missed the call (of course). I called the NS office back, but of course there are no live people that actually answer the phone.  I tried the doctor's secretary, and his nurse (I have both of their direct lines memorized - go figure) and got voice mails.  I paused a moment to take a breath and got the bright idea of calling the main hospital number and to ask for Dr. G - directly.  Guess what?  

I was connected  - pronto, and we were able to have our long conversation, all questions were answered, and we have some dates scheduled!!

Quick synopsis of MRI:
Brain and ventricles - look great, in his opinion the ETV is working, even though we don't feel like he is totally back to baseline or what he was before the ETV/Seizure, in the doctor's words "He's safe!" For now we will let this go.

Spine - He's tethered. We knew this, all SB kids are tethered.  He has a tethered cord in the S1 region, and a pretty large syrinx (fluid filled cyst in the actual spinal cord).  He also mentioned there is a sac of fluid where he's tethered.  Before they do the VEPTR surgery (growing rods to correct the scoliosis), Toby will need a spinal cord detethering.  They don't like to put the rods in while they are tethered because as the back grows and is stretched, the spine/cord are also stretched and can cause more scoliosis and neurologic damage.  He even went so far to say that sometimes the orthopedic doctors end up having to take the rods back out, so we will do the detethering first.

The other part of this was clarifying some things that I have been wanting to ask for a long time.  One of the most commonly asked questions in the SB world is what is your lesion level?  This means where was the break in the spine, and what muscles/nerve function did it affect?   Here is a link to a photo that describes some of it (hopefully the link works).  We've always been told that Toby's level is L3/L5.  Bottom line - Toby's lesion is about that level, but his actual function is L1/L2 because he can move his legs from his hips, but that's it.  He has no quadricep muscles, and can't move his legs from his knees.  So, when they do the cord detethering they typically cut an incision above where the spine is tethered, and then work to separate it and all nerves from the scarring, etc.  The fact that Toby's level of function is much higher than where he's tethered means even if something goes crazy wrong in surgery - it shouldn't affect his function (because he doesn't have much).  I look at this positively and also want to cry because I wish he had better function than he does.

The biggest risk of surgery is CSF leak.  He mentioned that if he can't get the back closed back up properly because of leaking fluid, he will put a lumbar drain in for a few days.  Spinal fluid and a healing incision don't mix well. The surgery will last at a minimum of around 6 hours - and he even broke that down into time frames for me - anesthesia, hooking up electrodes/monitoring wires, actual incision, detethering piece, closure, and the anesthesia piece.  It's possible he will need to be in the PICU because most of the nurses on the pulmonary floor (where we always have to be) aren't comfortable with neuro stuff/lumbar drains.  He is going to ask if maybe a few neuro nurses could float to pulmonary so he doesn't need to stay in PICU most of the time.  We will see.  
We have an appointment this week to see the MRI pictures (I love this about Dr. G) - he pulls things up on the computer and explains all the detailed MRI pictures.  He will also examine Toby.  Surgery is tentatively planned for Oct. 23rd - they were working on putting the request in late Friday, so we should get an actual surgery date this week.  These dates are perfect for us because Toby can still participate in his Miracle Mile for the Nationwide Children's Columbus Marathon/Half-Marathon on Oct. 21st.  My sister and I are running the half-marathon, and my parents are also coming down from Michigan, so Grandma Fabian can stay afterwards to help out while Toby's in the hospital - planning on about a week stay.

About 4-6 weeks later, probably the beginning of December, Toby will have his rod surgery on his back.

Another deep breath - whew!!  

Still with me?

I felt much better on Friday after speaking with the doctor, and having a bit of a plan.  I just needed to be Patient!

Let's Get On With It!

Yesterday Toby had the full MRI of his brain and spine.  We were admitted to the new hospital pulmonary floor.

Arrival at 8 a.m.
Scan at 11:15 a.m.
No food after midnight
No drink after 7 a.m.

Actual scan wasn't until 2:15 p.m.
Arrival home at 6:15 p.m.
No food for almost 24 hours
No drink for 9 hours
Poor baby
Long day
Toby was whipped

So, the new hospital is just beautiful.  Every room has this wall behind the bed that changes colors and looks like an outdoor scene.

We had a great view of downtown Columbus.  This photo was taken out of our window!

There are two flat screen televisions - a small one by the bed for parents, and the large 42-inch screen for the kids.  Toby enjoyed watching movies on the Get Well Network (it's an interactive program that allows you to play games, watch movies, and also do any educational type things that you need with your child).  Toby was in rare form yesterday - laughing and being silly.  He had two great nurses that just fell in love with their "Miracle Mile Patient".  When we left both of them walked us all the way to the van - his entourage! :)

So, I had been preparing Toby for this day and we've also been discussing his future surgeries.  For the first time he remembers being in the hospital this past March/April when he had his ETV and his major seizure a week later.

March 17, 2012

He always asks me if he will have to stay or will he be able to go home afterward.  Then, he cheers when he finds out he doesn't have to stay.  It's definitely getting harder emotionally to do this!  We had a great laugh in the van, though, because he asked, "Mom, do you remember when I told the nurses that you were in the potty?"  At first, I had no idea what he was talking about, wondering if he was talking about something at home with our home care nurses.  Then, I remembered that this was something that happened his last stay and he remembered that.


You have to understand that for the first time Toby is remembering things and talking about them.  Mentally, physically, and socially he is maturing and this is so encouraging for us to see his conversational skills expanding.  The mere fact that he does remember the last stay, something that happened, and that he asked me about it is AMAZING!

We sat in the O.R. waiting room for awhile, and then I decided to go and visit a new friend whose son was inpatient. While I was away, I missed our neurosurgeon stopping by.  He had to leave early, so he stopped by and spoke with Bruce and then left.  Bummer!

Bottom line - Toby will need a spinal cord de-tethering surgery.  The doctor looked at what they had scanned so far and said his ventricles looked good, and it appears his ETV is working.  They were still scanning the spine, but the fact of it is (and I've known this for years)...all kids with SB have tethered spinal cords.  It was interesting this year at the National Conference to sit in one of the sessions and see how low in the back our kids' spinal cords are compared to other healthy kids.  It's pretty low.  After initial back closure surgery, the scar tissue (which helps the healing process) adheres to the spinal cord.  Putting the rods in for the VEPTR are going to stretch him out and also stretch his cord, so they need to release it.  I was expecting this, preparing for it, but it's still not easy.  Toby's back scar isn't pretty - it stretches across his entire back and is a jagged diagonal scar.

This is Toby's back scar, and that red mark is from his night-time brace, which is why I knew that his scoliosis was getting worse and he would need rod surgery.  

He also develops scar tissue quite readily, we know this because of his prior surgeries and his bowel obstruction last fall, which was a result of internal scar tissue adhering to his intestines.

The surgery makes me nervous.  This will be surgery #13 and #14 for our Toby.  He's been through so much, and the release can be pretty complicated.  I'm expecting it to be complicated.  I was also so frustrated yesterday because
A.  I missed talking to the doctor - he spoke with Bruce, but I didn't get a chance to ask all my questions.  B. We didn't walk away with dates on my calendar.  I wanted to walk away with dates!
C. I'm having to wait again.

Now, that we've accepted that he needs these two surgeries - I just want to get them scheduled, completed, healing done, and move on with life.  I want to be able to PLAN!  Planning is what I do best, but instead we have to wait..and wait some more.  I'm ready to get on with it.

God continues to teach me that it's HIS timing.  This is not in my hands, I can't be in control, and waiting is what we need to do right now.  It's tough waiting.  Did I mention I don't like waiting?
We have several pre-op appointments, and scheduling through the hospital is never quick or easy.  The orthopedic surgeon really didn't want him in-patient during cold and flu season, and we will be smack in the middle of it.  The neurosurgeon thought the de-tethering would be end of October, with VEPTR around the beginning of December.  There are holidays to plan around, childcare to arrange, others are waiting on this to get their own schedules fixed in place.  But, then I look back earlier in the week to Monday when we didn't even have an MRI scheduled.  Three days later, the MRI is complete, done!  God's timing is not my own - He continually reminds me of that.  I can't control everything is lesson number 2 - and His plan is always better than anything I could come up with on my own.  So, we will wait.

Some funny sayings from our Toby this week:

"Mom, I have big muscles just like the "HULK"!"
"Mom, I love you - you are my best girl!"  Melts my heart...
He told the nurses in pre-op waiting, "that he was shaking his bootie!"

When the Unexpected is Expected.

Today Toby had his Myelo clinic appointment.  This is the day when we sit in a room for several hours (about 5 to be exact), and all of the doctors/therapists/specialists come through to discuss all the areas that are affected by Spina Bifida - Urology, Physical Medicine, Developmental Pediatrician, Neurosurgery, Orthopedic Surgery, Neuropsychologist, Occupational and Physical Therapist - not to mention our contact people for the companies that do adjustments on our wheelchairs and braces.

I went in today hopeful - not a lot of things to discuss in most areas.  A few questions about various things.  The biggest issue being Toby's back.  He has been wearing a night-time back bending brace for almost a year because of his severe scoliosis (early onset for kids with SB).  Over the past few months we've had issues with his brace leaving marks on his back - then we have to leave it off for a week or so, and try again.  We've had the brace adjusted once and it helped some.  I have been wondering if his back is getting worse.  About 1 1/2 years ago - the orthopedic surgeon and I had talked about the possibility of Toby needing titanium rods to straighten his back.  It's called VEPTR or vertical expandable prosthetic titanium rib. They attached from the ribs to the pelvic bones on both sides of the spine (out a little ways) and straighten the scoliosis.  They also have to be adjusted for growth - which is a surgery every 6 months until the child stops growing.

So, we saw most of the specialists today - got some more information about how Toby would need to have a motility study done before the MACE and Mitrofanoff surgery.  That was good to know, something we can talk to GI about.
Down to radiology for a back x-ray
Discussions with the nurse
Neuropsychologist stopped in
Adjustments to Toby's wheelchair
Developmental pediatrician

I went in to the day hopeful that his back had stayed the same - maybe it was just my imagination.  Maybe he's outgrown the brace and needs a new one.   Then orthopedic surgery comes in.  I saw it on his face -

Toby's back has a 55 degree curve - lying down...it's probably 80 or more sitting up. I remember Dr. K telling me before that once the scoliosis hits 50 degrees it starts to do permanent damage to the spine.  He needs surgery - soon...October.

Tears
Discussion
Questions
More questions

They want to do the surgery in October - trying to avoid major respiratory illness season.  Switching around other patients already on the surgery schedule.  It looks like the schedule is open the end of October - after the Columbus Marathon/Half-Marathon (sigh of relief).  At least Toby can be out there inspiring others in his Miracle Mile - Mile 7!

Have lots to do - clear the surgery with pulmonary, move up his MRI under GA of his brain and his spine to check cord tethering.  It's possible he needs it detethered before the rods are put in...can't stretch the spine out and still have it tethered down low - can cause problems.  Lots to consider.  Lots to pray about.

I knew it was coming - sort of expected it, but still held on to that hope that it was a year away.  I wonder if I knew it instinctively, which is why I put off scheduling the urology surgery.  It's still hard to hear the words when they actually come out of the mouth of the doctor...even when you are expecting the unexpected.  Grief hits hard - harder than I realize.  This is tough.  I don't like how the grief paralyzes me, don't feel like cooking dinner, playing with the kids, rotating seasonal clothing (I found those swim trunks and tank tops and realized the weather isn't going to get warm again - really should clean that stuff out).  Instead I want to cry, but need to hold it together.  We knew this was coming - just didn't expect it - the unexpected, yet it's expected (ironic).  I know God knew it was coming - it's no surprise to HIM.  I'm glad, glad He encompasses all time and knows the outcome in October. That He is with us every step of the way...but for now I'm going to go cry a little and grieve.  I have learned to do this, to adjust to the new normal.  Grief helps, but it's also hard.  I'll try to post more details later - especially as we begin to understand all the details.  Thanks for listening.

Comfort Zone

I really enjoy doing things that are within my comfort zone.  If I'm unsure about a situation, place, opportunity - it takes me awhile to get used to the idea before I will venture into new territory.  Some a lot of times I'll avoid it all together if I'm not comfortable enough.

Having Toby (and kids in general) has really grown me in this area.  Before Toby, I would NEVER be the first to approach a stranger or begin a conversation.  Post-Toby, I am more open to this, especially if their child is in a wheelchair, has a trach or a ventilator.  In fact I met a very good friend at the zoo when Toby and her daughter were babies - we connected because of our kids' trachs!

There are times that I'm at our local children's hospital by myself because of a meeting or other event (I volunteer on a few committees),  I'll see a child that reminds me of Toby, and I want to rush up to the family and introduce myself and hear their story.  I'll give them a special smile.  I'm sure they're thinking "wish this weird lady would stop looking at us and smiling!"  But, it's hard not to empathize because we get it, we understand.

On the flip side, it's also difficult to venture into any new situation with Toby.  It took me several months to warm up to the idea of flying on a plane with him when he was a full time ventilator patient a few years ago (ask Bruce - ha!).  Even attending our new small group tomorrow night has my stomach in a few knots.  Do they really want a wheelchair in their house? Considering a new location/event, we have to ask ourselves:

How would will we get Toby around?  Grass, mud, and sand are not a wheelchair's friend
Will Toby even be able to participate in any activities?
What about his food schedule?
Where in the world will we do our straight cathing?  (this is ALWAYS an issue)
What will the weather be like? (heat and rain are not friends of a trach)
Is there enough room for Toby's chair?  Will he beat up all the walls in a friends' home?
If we spend the night - what are the sleeping arrangements?

For these reasons and a bit because of sleeping space, we have never gone to visit my youngest sister and her family in Indiana (over 5 years!)...until Labor Day weekend.  A conversation with Conor birthed the idea, and after some hotel reservations and planning, we thought, "Why not...let's just do it?"  So, we did.

We had a lot of fun visiting Shauna, Jonathan, Addy, and Brenden.  The kids had a blast playing together, and Toby scooted around their house like a champ.  They have a small four-wheeled all terrain vehicle that we rode for hours and hours.  The kids loved it.  I really enjoyed time with my youngest sister - it's fun to have our kids grow up together!

Toby enjoyed his little buddy (even though Toby doesn't look too sure in this photo).  The favorite things of the weekend were of course the four-wheeler, Shauna's ipad, and Snappy (their cat).  We are not blessed to have pets at our house (I'm allergic to cats), so whenever we are at someone's house with pets - especially cats or dogs, the kids love them to death.  Snappy wasn't too sure about our kids, but after awhile he got used to their rowdy ways and enjoyed the attention.  Did I mention the kids really liked the four-wheeler?  We weren't on the road home, five minutes when the kids were asking if we could get one for our house.  Hmmm..sure our home owner's association would love that!

Don't you just love those smiles?

There are times when we just can't take Toby certain places, it's not practical or safe, or honestly it's just way too much work to get him there and all of his equipment.  (You should see how much we have to pack when we travel).  However, we have learned through the years that venturing out of our comfort zone usually reaps more benefits and enjoyment than the cost of time and energy it takes to get him there - and it's worth it to invest in our relationships and spend time with those we love.


 

Some Smells Are Worth A Thousand Memories

All it took was walking into the doctor's office and a short conversation with the receptionist to bring on the tears.

the sights...
the smells...
the memories...

I am an emotional mess and I can't even blame it on hormones.  Since we moved three years ago, I haven't been back to this particular ob/gyn office.  I typically go to the one closer to our house.  It's strange to face the memories of hearing the very first time there was something wrong with our baby.  It was August 31st - our "D-Day"!  The Defining Day when our lives changed forever.

A little while later I'm in one of the exam rooms talking about the family with the nurse practitioner.  I share my thoughts with her, she's sympathetic - it's just so strange to be back in the room where the doctor revealed the news, "there's something wrong with your baby."  The NP says that sometimes our senses remember before the mind does.

How interesting, how true.

I wonder why these memories hit me now?  Why can't I hold back the tears.  The ironic thing is that I did have a few appointments at this office when I was pregnant with Caris.  It's not like I hadn't been back there.  At 6 weeks, I had an ultrasound because of spotting.  It was something new, something I had never had with any of my other pregnancies, and because of Toby I was more on edge.  I remember waiting back in the ultrasound room,  The last time I had been in this room was while pregnant with Toby.  As I was waiting for the technician I turned and looked at a bulletin board of various ultrasound photos (no names) just pictures and dates.  I remember sitting there reading the captions declaring happy news:

"It's a girl!"
"It's a boy!"
"It's twins!"

I smile.

Then "Lemon-shaped head".  I slid off the table and walked over to look at the date on the ultrasound - August 31st - It was Toby's ultrasound photo.  The tears fell, the grief came back.

I'm not sure why it hit me this time.  (And no I'm not pregnant!)  I do know that certain smells take me back.  Who can forget the smell of the green hospital soap?  That will forever remind me of when Toby was in PICU.  It's good to look back and remember, it's good to grieve.  Most special needs parents will tell you that at various times in their children's lives they have been at one stage or another of the grieving process.  I'm still not sure why visiting the doctor's office this week brought back the tears -- August 31st was just a few weeks ago, and it was the day I spent around five hours on the phone regarding a possible cut in nursing hours, so I'm sure some of it is stress and remembering the day our lives literally changed forever.  In some ways I wish I could tell myself then what I know now - maybe the grief wouldn't have been as strong, but then again maybe I wouldn't have believed the blessing Toby would be - 6 years, and 13 surgeries later.  It's worth it - it's all worth it!

"Ditro from a "pan"!

(It's always fun and interesting to think of titles for these posts).  

Here goes with an update:
First of all - God is so incredibly good - He is faithful.  I received an e-mail later Tuesday night from our doctor.  Our insurance agreed to keep the hours at 16 through the end of December.  They are requesting some additional documentation from the agencies of when he's on the ventilator and how much he needs suctioned.  It makes me nervous because he's on the vent. less now than ever (with no naps now in the afternoon), but his suctioning actually has been more of late.  He had a cold a few weeks ago and ever since then he leaks copious amounts of secretions out of his trach.  Maybe it's the weather?  Who knows.  I am working on trying to get a contingency plan in place; we may have a few other options.  I'm also looking at how many hours can we manage with if it's less after the first of the year, so we're not blind-sided if they cut again and this time don't reinstate them.  We shall see.  For now I feel like I can breathe again...and I'm so thankful for all of your prayers.

Now to cover why we're talking about ditropan again.  Yesterday Toby had the full nine yards of bladder testing: (here is a recap of what each test does)

Renal ultrasound: ultrasound of his kidneys

VCUG: this is where they fill the bladder with a barium type substance in fluoroscopy and watch to see whether he has reflux up to the kidneys and what the bladder neck looks like (is it leaking or holding the urine in the bladder)
Urodynamics testing: this is where they hook up different electrical wires and also fill up the bladder with saline this time to see what the pressures in the bladder are.

Results:
Renal ultrasound: everything looks good.
VCUG: he doesn't have reflux.  They were especially looking for the leaking this time because he has had that significant change in his bladder in the last few months.  It used to be that he was dry mostly in between caths, and now he's not at all.  Our cath volumes are very low (75-100) compared to before (250-350).  Of course during the test, he didn't leak at all.  BUT, even though clinically he didn't show leakage, he is leaking.  On a good note - his bladder capacity is still excellent - it holds  A LOT.  

Surprise! - the radiologist also said that Toby has left his dysplasia meaning his hip is out of place.  This is common in kids with myelo, but no one has ever told me this.  Nice?  huh.  I don't think it changes anything - doubt they'll do surgery on it, but it's definitely something to ask about at Myelo Clinic in a few weeks.
Urodynamics: There was a distinct difference in the bladder pressures in Toby's bladder this time from being off the ditropan. It used to be that they would get high when he had about 250 ml in his bladder, now they got high around 120 ml, which means he definitely needs to be on the ditropan for now.  The higher pressures mean the bladder overworks and then the bladder wall thickens.  You want the bladder to be a smooth - not overworked muscle.

So, what does it all mean?

Toby is going back on the ditropan.  To be completely honest, I never really saw a difference off of it.  He still gets sweaty, his cheeks and legs still get blotchy when he overworks himself (which leads me to believe that this is completely tied to autonomic issues in his body from his Chiari II Malformation).
We also discussed in depth the MACE and Mitrofanoff surgeries. It appears he will not need a bladder augmentation - it's big enough and holds a lot of urine.  But, he will probably need the bladder neck tightened or even closed off so he won't still leak.  The point of the MACE and Monti for short is to be dry clean and independent.  Dr. J (whom I just love) - the urologist and I discussed at length the different between the cecostomy and the MACE to manage bowel continence.  He tends to like the cecostomy better, but is willing to do the MACE for Toby because that seems to be the way we are leaning.

I'm still a little bit on the fence between the MACE and cecostomy, but am so glad to have a doctor that is willing to work with us and make the best choice for Toby.  With each appointment and discussion I feel more at peace with the decision to move forward with this.  I also understand the differences better, the methods of how the different procedures are done (which I won't bore you with now).  Toby wants to be independent with cathing, he asks to cath himself, but sitting up in his wheelchair he can't see anything to do it himself.  This would allow for that.

So, when's surgery?   Not sure yet - because I need the orthopedic doctor to look at Toby's back.  I think his scoliosis is getting worse. When Toby sits on the floor his rib cage sticks out horribly - his spine is very curved.  I want to make sure he's not going to need rod surgery in the next 6 months-1 year before we choose to do the MACE and Monti.  We'll talk more about this at Myelo Clinic with the Ortho Surgeon.

Last, but not least - Toby is going to have another sedated MRI of his brain/spine, everything either in Sept. or beginning of October. We are still seeing his eye gaze issues, nystagmus, looking out of the corner to see things, etc.  The neurosurgeon wants to cover all basis (looking at syrinx, tethered cord, etc.) just to make sure the ETV is working, etc.

Whew - that is a lot of updates, but they are things that I've been processing for awhile, but haven't wanted to mention.  Figured it was time to talk about all these different aspects.

P.S. Bruce is the one that thought up the saying "ditro" from a pan...because when we have pancakes for breakfast - his saying is "cakes from a pan", so we have thought of all kinds of different words we can say that are "from a pan".  Just our humor in every day life! :)